Get Committed to Yourself

 2092nd BLOG POST

While I was working upon my new year resolutions for 2024, I just thought of going through what I had thought of achieving in 2023. Though the target wasn’t very out of my zone yet when I was going through the unachieved ones – I realized that I fell back on so many of them which could have been achieved very easily. In hindsight, we always retrospect. But sometimes, I think if retrospection is just another form of procrastination or it does bring something positive out of the whole exercise. Thinking of many such instances, I feel that every time we have failed in achieving anything, it is not because of any external factor but our lack of commitment towards ourselves.

 

If we promise something to our friend, we go all our way along to ensure that we don’t fail in executing what we promised them. Similarly, if we are at work and we have committed to a deadline, we go all our way to send that mail on that EOD so that we aren’t blamed for any failures. Even with the person we love or have soft corner for – not necessarily a love relationship – we don’t want to disappoint them at all. We will go through sleepless nights just for readying that gift we know would make them extremely happy on their special day. But what happens when the same is expected towards our own well-being? Why do we feel that we aren’t answerable to anyone even if we don’t provide ourself the required on the expected day?

 

I have understood that success and failure are never guaranteed even if we put all the hard efforts that are required to achieve anything but what one requires the most is commitment towards one’s own self. We lack the intensity when it comes to promising anything to ourselves but yet we expect great things to happen with us. There may be multiple times when you must have promised yourself of a better lifestyle… of dedicating certain amount of time every day for yourself – on your health – on your reading habits – on improving your skill sets – on your studies – on your family life etc. But every time, you must have ignored it as generously as you had decided upon following them. Why are we so careless towards ourselves?

 

We think that someone else will come up one day in form of a great friend, sibling, parent, stranger or an opportunity will fall upon the sky and do everything for us all of a sudden. We feel that life just needs that one miracle which must have been written in my destiny to happen which will give meaning to all the failures and struggles that we are walking upon. Why don’t we understand that no one else is going to come to help us out from our misery? Even if someone would want to help us, they can only devote a limited time out of their own busy schedule for us. We can never rely on anyone else to be committed to us when we are ourselves in a toxic relationship with our own self.

 

Our actions are enough to tell how much we want something. If we just keep on saying, claiming, manifesting without any real execution and commitment towards our dream and goals, it tells us about our own character every minute. If our priority items are only in our words but we never act upon them the way we should, then deep down we don’t actually want to achieve it. Yes! It might sound an impossible fact but it is true. We keep on lying ourselves continuously of achieving this and that target but in reality, we are just clowns making our minds laugh by making it win every moment.

 

We just don’t want to control our mind and make it work on our commands. We want a life of comfort and damn, when has anyone achieved heights by chilling at the base of Mount Everest. One has to fight thousands of challenges to reach the summit when the world and universe actually acknowledges your presence. When you are at journey, no one wants to know you. I read a quote written by James Clear which said “Your actions reveal your true motivations”. How true is that!

 

Every moment wasted in partying with friends, chilling at restaurants, gossiping at office, spending money on expensive cloths/cosmetics, lying to parents comes back to haunt us. They never get disappeared in this galaxy of things in space. It knows that there’s a phenomenon called as Karma which needs to be served to the same person who emitted the negative energy with his/her behavior towards the universe. There’s a reason why we are not achieving things and only by our alertness and awareness, we can fix it. We need to be committed to ourselves first before being committed with anyone else. Your friends, family and colleagues will be proud of you only when you are a person of great conduct and discipline. Otherwise, you yourself know how you treat or see the people who aren’t disciplined and sincere about their life and success. Well, that’s all….

 

Thanks!

 

WRITING BUDDHA