Radha Ashtami - It's significance and why we should know about this festival..

1869th BLOG POST

The day has been a bad one. Woke up with a feverish feeling – had a paracetamol and then I was all ready for attending my work from home but again it impacted my health in afternoon with severe headache and vomiting sensation which didn’t allow me to concentrate well on work hence I thought of going through few spiritual articles. Surprisingly, I got to know that the festival of Radha Ashtami is being celebrated today across the people of my Dharm. I thought of reading and knowing about it. So I went through some sources on which I believe as the concerns these days is that every person believes more on what Godmen says than what is written in the scriptures. There are only few people left who believe in directly learning from our scriptures. I have luckily found few such people and try knowing the relevancy of such festivals I am not aware about from them.

Radha Ashtami is basically celebrated for Radha Rani – so as all of us know that mostly while remembering Lord Krishna – we end up saying or chanting “Radhey-Krishna” – so the “Radhey” we refer in this is Radha – who is popularly known as the most beloved of Lord Krishna. And as in our Dharm, women have always been given more respect than men, her name is taken before Lord Krishna. It is said that even if you don’t take the name of Krishna and just keep on chanting “Radhey Radhey”, she refers her best bhaktas to the Lord and all your miseries shall end gradually as you become favorite of both- Radhey and Krishna. How magical, isn’t it? If you must have seen Vishnu Purana which got telecast recently, it is very clearly shown how when Goddess Lakshmi asks Lord Vishnu to help one of her devotees, he never denied and personally checked on what is happening with the devotee. And Radha Rani is known to be avatar of Goddess Lakshmi itself.

Radha Ashtami is celebrated around 15 days after Janmashtami – the day when she was found for the first time on a lotus flower from which she emerged. She didn’t open her eyes until Lord Krishna appeared in front of her. It is also believed that Radha and Krishna are one energy itself in two different bodies. She is referred to as spiritual energy of him. And that is what is being described when the relationship of Radha and Krishna are spoken – which people take in different sense altogether as a love story. When spirituality runs so much towards God, God starts considering this spiritual form as his closest.

The word “Dhara” means the flow of water from higher level towards lower level – which is how all energy flows. The word “Dhara” is just opposite of the above word which obviously means that the energy flows from the lower level towards higher level – which is a significance of Spiritual energy which flows from low to high. Hence, Radha Rani is one of the prominent figures in our religion and that is this 8^th day of the Shukla paksh in Bhadrapada month when her emergence is celebrated. It is mainly celebrated by the Vaishnavs – the believers of Lord Vishnu such as ISKCON members.

I am very sad that I didn’t know about this beautiful day until yet. Due to my sickness, I couldn’t celebrate it today by praying Radha-Krishna the way I wish I could have but no issues- it shall happen from next year onwards for sure. May God bless me and my health and remove all the obstacles that my life is crunched in currently. Wishing all the people who believe in God a very Happy Radha Ashtami today. May all of you be blessed by Radha Rani.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 

Lost a close family friend to Corona today.. Please take this seriously..

1868th BLOG POST

Well, today shall never be forgotten and the date shall become memorable in life – and not for any good reasons but something that came as a shock and pain just after I woke up in morning. We are all going through the notices and circulars that the Government and Municipal Corporations of our area are releasing which describes how many Corona cases have been added, recovered and number of deaths occurred due to the same in our area. This gives us some hope, or it adds to our worry. But generally, it is later skipped because we are still safe from it. Until now, I had the same attitude but there was always a small worry for my parents specially my mother as they are already suffering with certain diseases hence the infection might cause them much harm than me. I, anyway, don’t care much about life and death.

But today morning when I woke up, I got to know about death of one of our family friends and the aunty couldn’t fight against this disease because she was very weak. She was admitted since last 3 days near my home but none of us could go there to meet her or even my friend and his wife who were waiting outside the hospital whole day in expectation of some great news. We couldn’t even serve both of them lunch or dinner or even a cup of tea as they themselves advised us to not take things emotionally but practically and be at home. It was quite mature of them but then this news – it has surely affected them as every phone call they made to my mother post that were with cries or fit of weeps. Uncle, himself, is still admitted in the hospital hence this couple, who are even younger than me, handled all the death rituals and its arrangements all by themselves in such state of mind. The funeral only had both of them and a cousin who flew from Kolkata after knowing their parent’s covid infection.

The Covid infection is risky for sure. We do pretend to show that we don’t care about it as the death rate is very low in percentage but friends, just imagine, if anyone from our family ends up being in that percentage, it shall be very impactful for us – though everyone else reading the notice of that evening shall claim at their home that things are fine as only 1 or 2 deaths happening in their area, but for us, everything must have been lost. I just can’t imagine this virus taking away my family members just like that. No, it shouldn’t. I have been missing my jogging park and area around me but still it has been only 3-4 times that I have stepped out of my home for some very essential activities otherwise I haven’t since March 2020 even before it began in India.

Today, seeing my childhood friend lose his mother whom he loved immensely as I have seen him in hospitals since all these years every time auntiji got admitted – his concern and worries were always genuine and doing every thing worthwhile for her was always from heart. He never made faces about how much trouble he must take month after month due to deterioration in his mother’s health. And currently, his father is still at an Isolation centre fighting the battle separately. Imagine the pain, friends. It is happening with people like you and me.

I have written this post in order to request all of you to please take care and don’t move out of your house until and unless it is as urgent as the biggest emergency of your life. Things can surely wait. And in case you also don’t fear death like me, understand, may be your immunity shall be wonderful, you shall not face anything but in case, you end up becoming carrier and it spreads to your family members and someone becomes really serious – you shall never be able to forgive yourself. And then even you shall start fearing death because who wants to face one of their closest people up there answering why they did this to them. Let life and death be a sudden affair for us rather than planning to take things in our hands for someone else. If you have Work from Home capabilities, make good use of it. We have ample options of getting entertained in our home with so many digital things in place. Buy a carrom, ludo or chess if there are times when you feel you don’t have much options to feel happy and celebrated at home.

Please go and watch Mr. Ashish Chanchlani, a very famous Youtuber’s video on his channel. His parents, uncle-aunt and a kid from their family are in isolation after getting infected and the fear of this is very much visible on the face of Ashish and his sister who are on camera helping us understand what they had to go through. If my Blog didn’t work for you, at least that video shall. Even if nothing works, understand, it’s a PANDEMIC and not just regular cold and cough – the way many people are downgrading Covid-19’s impact just to show their fearless attitude. Don’t get influenced by them. You are a well-educated person yourself if you can read this post so please take responsibility of saving our families from this.

Thanks. Om Shanti for auntiji who have seen me since my childhood till now.

WRITING BUDDHA 

The Magic of Friendships by Shubha Vilas (Book Review: 3.25*/5) !!!

1867th BLOG POST

28^th Book of 2020!

When I turned towards spirituality few years back, the monks who are part of Iskcon foundation intrigued me a lot and I wanted to know so much about them. This made me search for few of them who have turned writers too. One of them is Shubha Vilas and at that point of time, he had written his first book in the Ramayan series and I had liked it a lot. I also read another non-fictional book written by him namely “Open-Eyed Meditations” which also helped me understand certain concepts I wasn’t aware of. So, I was waiting for him to release another new book and I am glad that he did which I have just finished reading. It’s another non-fictional attempt – “The Magic of Friendships”. The book is of around 204 pages published by Penguin books.

The writing style of Shubha Vilas is very simple which makes it easy even for a reader of 12 years of age or someone who has not been into convent schooling. His purpose of spreading his knowledge and perception about Friendship to as many people as possible becomes certain with the slow narration that he has used in defining each and every point. He doesn’t hurry with chapters and concepts and give ample of time to each of them to ensure that the readers grasp them completely.

There is nothing spiritual or deep in this book in case you are scared that after picking this book up, you shall not be able to relate with it. The chapters speak about Friendship as a concept and how it can be a boon to our life and lifestyle. Author speaks in brief about how friends can become catalyst in our life and can make it both – Good from Bad or Bad from Good considering the kind of company you have. Author doesn’t shy away from giving multiple examples- some real stories – some Vedic and Epic stories while some made-up stories to ensure that we get the understanding right rather than assuming few things by ourselves. Some of these short stories of 1-3 pages touch you seriously.

Author rather than pointing only at your friends regarding how grateful or back-stabbing they are – tends to highlight that we should focus in improving ourselves in the relationship first before expecting or judging our friends. One thing I am glad about is that author doesn’t end up giving traditional ideas about the same as I was little worried considering his monk background that he might be too harsh on our generation but he wasn’t. Haha!

Book covers some great insights in seven different chapters that talks about how joyful friendship should be, judging yourself as a friend, the power of empathy and the magic it can bring with itself, how friendship shouldn’t be treated as competition between you and your friends but how you can help each other grow together, how peer pressure and self-esteem issues can be handled with good friends around us and about how Friendship can be developed not only with your typical friends but with other relationships in your life too.

The book shall be very impactful for the new generation who are still in their educational or early-job phase as they have still not seen much world and some of them keep on wasting time on friendships without it being of any value of the same to their life. In fact, sometimes, it only causes destruction for them. This book shall really open their eyes regarding how fruitful and productive this relationship can be. For the people who have matured up – for them, the fictional short stories shall be enjoyable as they have some great tales to tell with which you can relate. I could relate with lots of them.

Now talking about the drawbacks of the book – I felt that author didn’t explore many more dimensions which could have been used in this book considering its topic. Author could have talked about how physically meeting friends rather than having video and textual interactions through their smartphones is more recommended. Author should have talked about how to isolate yourself from “Friends” with whom you want to end your friendship after knowing about their bad attitude without causing much damage to your life. It should have also covered how to approach friendship when you are about to convert it into a romantic relationship considering the sensitive topic that it is. And how to face rejection and still keep the friendship going strong. Similarly, the role of spouse and sibling as friends in your life is completely left out from the scope of the book. How to say “No” in Friendship and also to accept the same could have also been covered. Also how to handle friendship when you have patched up after a very big issue between you and your friend.

Except the few points above, I feel that the book is a great teacher for the people who are yet to mature in this concept called friendship and feel that they always get back-stabbed or are unable to carry their friends for long. I give this book 3.25* out of 5.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 

Kapil Dabur: "We grew up watching Ramayana and Mahabharat and it still fascinates us when we watch it on television" (Author Interview)

1866th BLOG POST

Kapil Dabur recently released his book- "The Signet Ring" in a way that it talks about both - Mythology and Modern World. I read the book and found the story very intriguing which made me speak with the author and have this interview in place so that we can get a bit into his mind.

Today, the author is celebrating his 39th Birthday and we wish he keeps on writing such great stories for us which can make us aware about our God and the tale that we haven't still heard.

It's time for all of you to cherish the interview now...

Hi Kapil, can we know something about your background before getting into our questions on you becoming the author.

I was born in Ghaziabad. My Dad worked as an Engineer in PWD department with UP govt. I studied across cities as Dad got transferred every 2-3 years. I completed my Bachelors in Commerce and then went to IIM Bangalore for my MBA. I worked in Blue chip firms like Airtel, Reebok and Vodafone for almost 8 years before launching my first start-up. I ran it for about two years and then came back to Corporate world. I joined Home Lane and then moved to Arrivae. My wife Ruchi is an interior designer. We have a son, Aditya. 

So how did you get into writing.

It has its origins in my first Start-up. I was working as Retail head with Vodafone in Ahmedabad when I decided to launch my own Start-up in the Home improvement industry. Being a first-generation entrepreneur, it was a lot of struggle, hard work and learning on the job. I used to compare and contrast my daily experiences as an entrepreneur with the ones when I worked in the Corporate world. I decided to combine my experiences and those of a close friend of mine and wrote my first book, Unusual choices. That’s how it started.

Please let us know something about your book- The Signet Ring.

I was always fascinated with mythology. I used to read a lot about Greek mythology, the Greek gods, the way they are epitomized in numerous ways. I did some research on that and zeroed on Lord Hanuman. I studied lot of books, articles on the internet about these topics and simultaneously worked on my concept note. It took me about six months to do so. This book picks up the life and stories about Lord Hanuman, his devotion and relationship with Lord Rama and goes on to create a story line embedded in the present times.

How tough was it for you to learn about mythology, religion and epic tales to prepare for this book?

It was not difficult at all. We grew up watching Ramayana and Mahabharat and it still fascinates us when we watch it on television. I am an avid reader and I thoroughly enjoyed my research for this book.

How were you able to speak such an intriguing thrilling story within 170-odd pages as I believe it had potential for a much bigger novel?

I kept working on the core idea of the book till I could summarize it as succinctly as possible. I decided to include only the most relevant incidents, facts that fit in genuinely with the plot. I deliberately kept it a sub-200 pages novel.   

As per your belief and knowledge, who came first or who is bigger- Lord Vishnu or Lord Shiva?

I strongly believe that they are the same. Both of them are manifestations of the one supreme energy. Both epitomize different aspects of creation. Lord Vishnu is more about nurturing life and Lord Shiva is more about destroying the excesses that endanger life. 

Also, I would like to know from you- Ram believed in having relationship with just one woman whereas Krishna is believed to have married many women – can you please explain this theory to us?

Lord Rama wanted to symbolize ideal living that’s why he took oath to marry only once during his current avatar. This is why he married only Sita.  When it comes to Krishna, he had eight primary wives. All of them are the divine forms of Mahalaxmi, the primary consort of Lord Vishnu.   

What are you writing the next?

I am working on a mythological fiction. 

What would you like to say to the readers who have trusted in picking up your first book?

I would first like to thank them for appreciating my work.  I hope to surpass their expectations with my upcoming books.

 WRITING BUDDHA 

Legend of Suheldev by Amish Tripathi (Book Review: 4.5*/5) !!!

1865th BLOG POST

27th Book of 2020!

Well, Amish Tripathi is one of the writers who have been associated with Indian mythology till now as he has written books on Lord Shiva and Lord Ram but if you have been going through his interviews, you must be aware about the kind of knowledge he has about Indian history too. Hence, the announcement of the book “Legend of Suheldev” came all of a sudden but it brought smile on my face as I always want Amish to write as much as possible because he writes really well and his stories have an emotional connect with the audiences. This time, Amish has written the book with the help of “An Immortal Writers’ Center” that he has developed who write it first and then it is being proofread and edited by Amish in order to ensure that the readers feel the same magic of Amish’s writing even while reading the books written in this collaboration. This is done so that Amish can share many such stories with audiences in his lifetime.

“Legend of Suheldev”- the book is of around 325+ pages which comes with a tagline of “The King who saved India”. This is a story based in 1025 AD and therefore, the story is a perfect combo to have Amish writing it. King Suheldev has been one of the historical figures who has been used by several political parties in fetching votes but if you would want to know about him, there is not much available to read. Amish has used his fictional imagination to write his story based on whatever true details he got from the history. In that sense, he got a good creative liberty to play with and I believe, it has been utilized very well to write a story which is powerful, patriotic, energetic, enthusiastic, terrific and what not. India has been invaded multiple times by Turks in the history and how King Suheldev takes a pledge of fighting against them to save his country is what basically summarizes the plot of this book.

The Battle of Bahraich that took place between King Suheldev and Salar Maqsud – the Turkish commander of Muhammad Ghazni is what this book basically covers keeping aside all the other stories in which few of the characters mentioned in this book are associated with – I am sure Amish shall write about them someday too. I liked how each and every character is given due importance rather than only talking about King Suheldev. Once again, Amish mentions Lord Shiva in his book very prominently which adds value to the story as it connects both- history and religious beliefs together to make it more valour and contemporary. The situations are written in such a way that you shall be able to correlate them with current situations and understand, where, we, as Indians, are failing.

The weapon of Amish is his philosophies which he uses to make his readers fall in love with his writings which is amply used in this story. Few instances such as the conversation between Chandrakirti and Ashvaghosh in the monastery which is their entry scene - talks about violence and non-violence. Similarly, the debate between Ashvaghosh and Abdul on Religion vs Patriotism is a masterpiece according to me. A detail conversational part between Govardhan and Kashinath talks about Hindu’s beliefs vs Muslim beliefs which is another contemporary subject out of which we can learn and adapt a lot of things. I like how Indian and Hindu culture from the 1^st millennium is displayed freely telling what kind of great souls lived then who saved our country from barbaric invaders.

The war and fighting scenes are very well written – I was almost able to imagine all of them happening in front of me and felt like watching a Bhansali or Baahubali kind of a movie in my mind. The book also has few twists and turns which keeps you interested with the pace of the story. Also, I must say that Amish carries romance as well as he covers epics, mythologies, historical fiction – the chemistry between Suheldev and Toshani is very beautifully handled in this book keeping the respect and aura of the characters in consideration. Overall, this book gives us very great lessons about how we, as Indians, keep on fighting among ourselves which gives the outsiders, neighbours and invaders power to defeat us. If we can unite, we can defeat any power in the world. Kudos to Author Amish for portraying the concept wonderfully.

Now, talking about the drawbacks – I must say that I felt Amish to be writing very frankly on how a Hindu leader would be – I am very much impressed as he didn’t try to mince things there – but then showing him having Muslim as his close aid and trusting other Muslim who tried to get into his group from Turkish side seems to be an attempt in trying to show the King Suheldev as a secular king which I don’t know how true it is considering that there is so much angst between both the religions even now in the 2^nd millennium. Also, I felt that few scenes are described too much which makes you skip sentences in between as you know they aren’t adding up anything to the story. Another problem that I face while reading is the way terms are used between the characters in the conversation – it is as if the characters of today are talking in a modern style. I believe the book should reflect the ancient history even with each word and sentence of the book – that is what had made The Shiva Trilogy so popular. Lastly, I believe many scenes where the protagonist has to act like a hero has been portrayed like a Bollywood scene rather than a real world. There should be difference in way books are written and movie scripts are drafted- I hope the Immortal Writers’ centre understands that.

Overall, “Legend of Suheldev” is one book that I’ll keep recommending to the people as there are so many anti-nationalistic voices these days that such stories speaking about hyper-nationalism, religious beliefs and Indian history needs to be promoted. This is one of the powerful books I have read which actually made me go back to that world and contribute myself. I give this book 4.5* out of 5.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 

Aahwan: Khand 1 by Saurabh Kudesia (Book Review: 4.5*/5) !!!

1864th BLOG POST

26th Book of 2020!

I am generally into reading English books but there are times when the title, cover page or the synopsis of a Hindi book fetches my interest that lands me into having the book in my shelf. One such book that I am done reading just yesterday is Saurabh Kudesia’s debut novel named “Aahwan: Mahabharat Aadhaarit Pauranik Rahasya Gaatha Khand 1”. The book is of around 300+ pages which initially made me doubt if I would be able to finish such a lengthy Hindi novel and over that, the initial 3-4 chapters have very tough vocabularies which made me doubt even more. But the moment the characters come into the picture and the thriller story begins is when the book becomes easy for the readers to go through and it took me just two sittings to complete the same – 80 pages in first and 224 pages in the second.

The book is based on several different dimensions of the story which makes it very interesting as there are terms and concepts that we are introduced with which we aren’t aware about. The great thing is that the fiction story based in the decade of late 2000s is connected with the era of 350 years ago and in a case, several thousand years back too. This is what comes as a shock because death has taken place in a completely simple middle-class Indian family and when the case starts getting linked with such phenomena, it gets surprising for the characters in the family and even for the readers. I wasn’t expecting such references of Mahabharata and Vedas but the way they have been synced up with the stories tells us about the capabilities of the debut author.

The narration of the book is little difficult – the section before the story begins -  which might make many readers keep the book for some other day considering the tough vocabulary but later on, as the book begins, even when the concepts discussed in the story are tough and unheard, the way author handles it makes it very easy for you to understand them and even remember it. The characterization is very powerful. Rohan, even when dead, sounds like the protagonist of the book which is the first time I have felt while reading any murder mystery. The chemistry between Jayant-Rathod and Jayant-Dr. Mazumdar is treated very well. Even the plot is very thickening, author keeps on lightening it with the humorous conversations between the later pair. Some sentences literally made me laugh loudly. The support of characters in the Rohan’s family is also nicely woven in the storyline - the characters which I believe shall have magical role in the 2^nd part of this book.

Initially, I felt that author would just relate few of the Bhagwad Gita’s quote to connect his story with Mahabharata but I am surprised with the kind of research work that the author has gone through that there are certain scriptures, Vedic texts, archaeological findings, Mahabharata, Bhagwad Gita, signs, symbols, images which play a big role in the story. How today’s technology is proven to be existing even thousand years back in our culture is what made my reading experience more delighting. Few characters are shown having super-human powers which is handled so beautifully that you trust that something like this can happen. Even in the pre-climax, when the mystery of Rohan’s death becomes more complex with the revelations of Dr. Verma’s findings, you end up believing everything – author should be applauded for making readers connect with his fantastical world in such a way. Author has given duly references wherever needed as many parts of his book refers to religious texts or real findings.

Now, talking about the drawbacks- As already mentioned above, the vocabulary should be such that book can be understood by maximum of readers. Secondly, the book doesn’t end up with clarifying any of the mysteries but only making it more complex – author should have scripted it such that something should have given a complete feeling to this book itself. It’s like investing your time in reading 300+ pages and not finding any result to the story. Thirdly, I believe there are few scenes which author has described too much which could have been handled with little less details – it would have helped in summing up this part of the book in just 250-odd pages.

Overall, this is one of the best books written in this Mythological fiction genre with a very unique concept which I haven’t read before. Also, the story has power to make you complete it in one-go with its fast-paced narration and thrill to know what more shall get revealed in this murder mystery. I am definitely waiting for the next part of this story. I give this book 4.5 stars out of 5. Yes! Please do read it.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 

Janaka and Ashtavakra by Ashraf Karayath (Book Review: 3*/5) !!!

1863rd BLOG POST

25th Book of 2020!

The spiritual people generally read only the texts from religion. The hardcore readers generally read thrillers, romance, biographies etc. but very rarely do they read books on spirituality. Hence, someone like me who is both into reading and spirituality finds it hard to discuss books that speaks about spirituality. I had got to know about the Ashtavakra Gita while having one such communication with the Founder of my previous organization with whom I had lot of spiritual discussions. Just before that I had also gone through Sandeep Maheshwari's audio available on his Youtube channel in 26 different videos where he speaks with us on Ashtavakra Gita. Since then I was always curious as to how I have never heard about this part from anyone even though Ramayan has been discussed with me by many. I heaved a sigh of relief when I got to know about the book named “Janaka and Ashtavakra” written by the author, Ashraf Karayath, in around 225 pages which is published by Rupa publications.

I started reading the book with great expectations as I was sure I shall get to know about spiritual perspective which I haven’t got to know yet. The book begins talking about Ashtavakra and his background and for the first 50 pages there isn’t much in the book that shall make you excited as the story moves very slow. And then it shifts towards Raja Janaka and his contemporary world during that time as now both the characters have to meet where Ashtavakra wishes to meet his father whom he has never met whereas Raja Janaka is looking out for a figure who can give him all the spiritual knowledge which shall help him get the answers he is looking out for.

The meeting scene of both the characters is very well articulated and it is the scene that is actually the biggest point of the book. How the realization starts dwelling within you right from that scene as it talks about judgement people make just by someone’s physical appearance. Ashtavakra is laughed at in response to which he laughs louder than anyone else and does until everyone is not done laughing. The characterization of both the main characters and all others such as Kushadwaja, Sunayana, Mahosadha etc. are done very well as you are able to understand their state of life and mind clearly. I liked how author is able to also take the story ahead along with the spiritual and philosophical knowledge and conversations that is being discussed in the book.

There are few enlightening sentences and paragraphs which surely makes you think about yourself and the amount of stress and unwanted tension you have been taking which actually shouldn’t have been part of your reality. I liked few of those sections. The last question that Janaka asks Ashtavakra and the response of the same is what gives this book a befitting end. I really liked how the complete war scenario has been inter-related with the spiritual knowledge that Raja Janaka was getting in parallel. It gives us the answer of many such unwanted future that we keep on imagining in our mind. An untold story of what happens just before Sita’s swayamwar is told very extensively in this book which shall help you learn about this part of Ramayan too.

Now talking about the drawback- even though the book has been summed up within 225 pages but still I felt it to be very slow in terms of story as it felt to be stuck at one point for many segments in the book. Even the start of the book is very slow for the 1^st 50 pages which gives a negative impact to the reader. Talking about the spirituality and philosophical conversations that I was excited for – it is too less and something that is very basic. I was expecting a lot of depth from it. The Ashtavakra Gita has many such theories and concepts to tell that amazes you which this book doesn’t even give an overview of. Hence, somewhere in between balancing both- the story of Mithila and the spiritual part- author couldn’t do justice to either of them. That is all I have to say. I give the book 3 stars out of 5.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 

A Second Chance by Sudeep Nagarkar (Book Review: 3*/5) !!!

1862nd BLOG POST

24th Book of 2020!

When I had started reading books a decade back, I always loved reading the debutante Indian writers. I don’t know why but I felt that these authors wrote with heart – then and even now. And mostly, all the books I read during those days were love stories and it continued for next 4-5 years after which the next set of writers that came up with their 1^st book were on different topics such as mythology, historical fiction or quite in-depth emotions. But there is a kind of emotion which got developed with the first few writers I read and Sudeep Nagarkar is one of them. I had read his 1^st book and saw him developing as a Bestselling author with 12 book titles under his name. I have just completed reading his latest release which is his 13^th book named “A Second Chance” released just yesterday itself.

The book speaks about the protagonist – Disha majorly who is a girl suffering through mental issues right from her childhood due to her parent’s disturbed relationship, their treatment with her, her bad luck at school etc. She has only thing constant in her life that is her friend – Kajal. Finally, she falls in love with a classmate which just makes her life more miserable and few things happen here and there (not disclosing to avoid spoilers) and she is being made to go through the process of Arranged Marriage. The book starts with her concern regarding Arranged Marriage with which I could relate so much. I believe Sudeep set the right segment to initiate the book with as it talks about the trauma and dilemma every young boy and girl has to go through because of the confusions and panic they have regarding setting up with a stranger for rest of their lives.

The narration of the book is simple and written in Sudeep Nagarkar’s style itself which he has carried right since his 1^st book with which the youth and his readers connects with him. This is a book which talks mostly about the school and college-days romance where you might not find something great happening but in the 2^nd half of the book when the story moves further and the dilemma of marriage begins is where the characterization of Disha is utilized nicely. I liked how Sudeep has taken the story post-marriage and this is where I found him speaking his thoughts regarding how ideal a married life should be in today’s time. The role of in-laws, how a husband should treat his wife on the first night, how the relationship is grown gradually day-by-day and how there shouldn’t be any secrets between the two in order to keep the bond pure and lively. This is a topic which deserves to be spoken to the new generation.

Rather than being directly preachy, Sudeep has tried to speak things in the thoughts that Disha writes or thinks in the italic font throughout the book. Also, the pre-climax and climax has a proper ending rather than keeping anything open or purposefully sad in order to get empathy from readers for the character who loses out. The characterizations of Raghav, Kajal, Dhruv, his parents and Disha’s parents are also done nicely and you can relate with them. The nice edit of the book as it has been summed up in within 225 pages is another great factor which makes this book a light and short read.

Talking about the drawbacks of the book- I feel that the story could have had more layers and it should have involved more sub-plots and intense conversations – currently, I found it to be quite simple considering that few of Sudeep’s previous books had great layers hence there were certain expectations. The way the book starts- I felt I shall be made familiar with many such youth traumas, but I could not find much after that. There are still few clichés that has been used in defining the emotion of love which I believe could have been narrated in more deepening manner. The character of Kajal should have been used more and involved with the main story. I found the narration to be old-school and was wondering why the author did not write it little more aggressive discussing lot of things youth indulges in these days.

Overall, this is a nice attempt considering the target audience of Sudeep Nagarkar as this story speaks of strengthening the bond of marriage and relationship whereas the new generation these days does not believe in the institution of marriage. This is something for which I would like to appreciate Sudeep’s intention as this shall surely change views of some of the readers at least. I give the book 3 stars out of 5.

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WRITING BUDDHA 

My experience of following Shrawan Month rituals for the very 1st time...

1861st BLOG POST

Yesterday, the month of Shrawan ended for all of us who follow the Hindu calendar as per Purnima. The folks who follow Amawasya calendar shall be following the religious month of Saawan until 19^th August, 2020. The month of Shrawan is an auspicious one where all of us pray in complete devotion of Lord Shiva. When it comes to Lord Shiva – whatever you do for the God is always less hence in the month of Shrawan, we devote ourselves as much as possible in the Lord and pray for his blessings. Lord Shiva is known for his bholapann and forgiving or blessing his devotees. I have always been mesmerized by Lord Shiva’s presence since I saw the idol of the divine in the Gorakhnath temple in Gorakhpur at Uttar Pradesh. I had remembered the idol and its image since childhood and always felt that there is only one God and it is Lord Shiva. It is later when I realized that there are other forms of God too.

Frankly speaking, in the last 30 years, I never followed the month of Shrawan by prohibiting non-vegetarian food and following other small sacrificial activities such as fasting etc. First of all, I always questioned this logic of not eating meat for a month and eating for rest of the 11 months as I believed that God is omnipresent in each and every moment – either it’s a day/month of festival or not. Also there has been another reason that in case you even take the pledge of following the prohibitions and sacrifices but as soon as your friends start enjoying their life who aren’t following the month, you end up breaking your promise with God as you get compromised by their endless requests immediately. According to me, this is a bigger sin than not following at all. Being unaware is okay but being aware and still committing the sin isn’t.

This year as we are working from home, I knew that any such negative energies are away from me so let’s try it out as I am anyway trying to follow as much religious practices as possible since the lockdown began in March 2020. And I am liking the process of learning my religion and following it to the best of my capacity. There is an altogether different feel to it. The temple at home has never given me the kind of feeling as it has given me in last 4-5 months. There have been times when I have ended up crying and weeping while praying to God or reading some mantra or shloka. Such has been the devotion which I hardly remember if I have ever experienced the same. Things with life has not been great in this phase but still – the belief in God stays intact. Now I realize that nothing is in my hands or my parents/friends but the almighty. Hence, the most we can do is to pray and ask him to give us the life which is best for us.

I had abstained myself from eating non-veg, eggs and drinking milk in Shrawan. In this month itself, I also did religious proceedings needed for the festivals and occasions such as Nag Panchami, Raksha Bandhan, Guru Purnima and others. I also fasted on the five Saawan Somwaars (Monday) as it is been done as the day is associated with Lord Shiva. The kind of poojas that I have performed on these Mondays have made me feel so special. I have also read Shiv Chalisa twice- morning and evening – throughout the month. Before this, I never did any kind of rituals or prayed Shiv Linga but this is the first time I learnt about it and performed it on every Monday in this month. I offered water on Shiv Linga daily though. Along with this, there were two Ekadashis that had come in this month- namely, Kamika Ekadashi and Putrada Ekadashi – on which I fasted for both the auspicious days dedicated to Lord Vishnu. I never knew about Mahamrityunjay Mantra but now, I remember it by heart and chant it every time I am aware about my presence and the moment.

Doing all of this makes you realize that you are in hands of a power beyond us and our understanding. I understood that life happens the way it has all been planned by God. I also realized that your scripted life is re-written as per your practices, Karma and Dharma that you are following. In case you are still suffering a lot, may be God is punishing you for some of your past sins. It is still good as that account of yours is getting closed. Once you are being tested by God in such difficult circumstances and you stay as truthful to your Dharma even then, you become one of the favorite devotees of God and great and magical things start happening with you. It is all about beliefs. Now, something has happened internally which makes me believe in everything I read about our God. Earlier, I used to question each and everything. Today, now, when I realize that Shravan has ended, it seems as if I am missing something and I wish if the days continued. But now I am waiting for next auspicious occasion as the next 4-5 months are all going to be festive, so we have multiple opportunities to be as close to God as possible.

I just wished to share my feelings I had after following the rituals of the month dedicated for Lord Shiva and wrote as it came in my heart. Hope my feelings were clear to everyone who read it. I request everyone to not be proud of being an atheist. Have some belief as per your gut feeling but please believe in a power above you.

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WRITING BUDDHA  

5 Years of Work Experience.. Does Professionalism means Being Formal?

1860th BLOG POST

Today, I complete 5 years of work experience. When someone says, time just passes by, we generally don’t understand until we feel the same emotions. Something similar is going within me when I realize that it has been almost half a decade since I started my career in IT. It seems that I am yet not established but to say - 5 years have gone by. Working has always been a fright in college days whenever any professor used to make us realize that all this fun shall disappear once the companies shall start coming up for placements or we shall be out for trying our luck.

Luckily, for me, the experience of getting my first job was not that difficult. The first interview call that I received after completing my Post-Graduation was the company that ended up giving me Offer Letter with which I continued until this year. I have also ended up having my first company switch in my 5^th year. I have always believed that when you are a part of an organization, I understand that the primary job is always to earn and save money but it is also about the bond that you share with your employer. If you start leaving organizations just after you have learnt things, it is quite a selfish motive. I believe in learning within an organization, growing our skills and then giving back to the organization with our special skills and tact. Until and unless, it is not two-way process, working in any organization doesn’t feel like family.

I agree that organizations are selfish when it comes to laying off etc. but that is not what happens always with us. So let’s not work with a negative mindset. Let’s take things positively and contribute as much as possible. Make something that stays with the organization even after you leave. Your tenure should end but your legacy should stay. Innovate processes. Create useful documents. Establish great team leaders. Build great relationships. Serve your clients and customers as much as possible. Our actions should stay as determined as possible. We shouldn’t wait for any kind of credit or acknowledgement to come in our way. If it comes, its great. If it doesn’t, we shouldn’t worry because we should be assured that whatever we have contributed shall bear its fruits today or after we are gone – but it shall surely benefit people whom you worked with.

I have been lucky to have a great people with me in my first organization who didn’t thrash me when I did mistakes but always pulled me up and asked me to try again and complete the job myself. This also gave me courage to change my profile and come to a better place where my heart was/is. Like always, people helped me tremendously during this movement and the support that was provided shall always stay special to me.

Recently, when I thought of changing my job and I started giving interviews during this phase of Covid pandemic, the way HR and all the respective people who took my interview were so polite to me as they were aware about my tough decision taken during a situation when market is down and there aren’t much jobs in the market. All such compassion shows that when its about professional world, we need not be too formal – if we take things to human level, there can be relationships developed even right from the first call. There were certain issues in my process for which my current company and other companies who were in talks were helping me with which says a lot about how you can also have personal talks with the professional contacts in your first call itself.

I can only say that I have had beautiful experiences in these first 5 years of Work Experience – joining a company as a Fresher – taking responsibilities of something out of my profile and skill sets – developing great relationships with everyone- my seniors, peers and juniors – having spiritual talks with the entrepreneur of the organization – discussing personal issues with the Director of the company – changing my profile – leaving the job during tough times – being jobless for a month – my first few appraisals and promotions – switching the job – having multiple rounds of interview – accepting an offer letter out of many organizations etc. I wish the next 30 years of my work experience – in case I end up being an employee itself and do not initiate anything of my own – gives me many such experience and relationship which shall keep developing my personality each and every day.

May God Bless Me!

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WRITING BUDDHA 

Can I call someone a FRIEND today just because they have been my FRIEND yesterday?

1859th BLOG POST

Well, this Friendship Day is all about revelations and realizations. Since so many years, we live within circles – circles of friends – acquaintances – people who claim to be our well-wishers etc. We have so many groups that in few people’s social media updates, I find 5-6 cakes being cut separately where each group has celebrated the birthday and made them feel special. But if purchasing or cutting cake for someone’s birthday would have proved the mettle of someone being your friend, this world would have been full of love which is not so. We are being ditched time and again. Trusting people have become so difficult that you shall never be able to understand with whom you can share everything that is there in your heart and still not be judged. There are rarely any such Friends left in our life. If they are, we can still say that we are lucky. But can you still trust them for your future if they shall remain to be the same forever? Somewhere there is always doubt. This has what Friendship has got reduced to.

I started the post saying “This” Friendship Day because during the lockdown, I have found many of my friends accepting the reality about the people they trusted a lot– sometimes more than their parents – and sometimes more than themselves. Now when they sat at home and thought about their relationships with certain people, they realized that it has always been so formal but coated with fake love and belongingness whereas there is nothing that they miss about them when they are alone in lockdown and actually looking for some company. We never got time to evaluate these friendships in regular days because we were always busy in work, traveling, people and as I said above – multiple friend circles. But now when we realize who are really our friends whom we can go to- oh shit – they are so rare – almost negligible. And if they are there, they are still judgmental at some level. Where to go to and pour our heart out- isn’t it?

I am just quite heartbroken with the way life has moved and come to a stage where I have so less friends with whom I can share everything and expect them to say – “No worries, my friends, mistakes happen and you are no God to not make one”. As soon as I tell someone about my activities which doesn’t set in the moralistic set of society, my friends give me such an expression that I feel like sulking back and getting lost in a world where no one can meet me again ever. Even when I try sharing something with someone- either its about my feelings or my feelings about them or a decision I am going to take, I find some other mutual friend talking to me about the same. This shocks me so much that there is always some kind of One-to-One connection too which should be respected. Yes, we are always friends in group, but because You and I are friends is also because You and I have certain level of Friendship between ourselves before our friendship in the group that we belong in. Respect That!

Who likes breaking friendship or downgrading the status of the same? I never like doing this. There was a time I lived for my friends. I always had my phone besides me while sleeping so that in case any of my friend messages or calls me, I am there to take it up even at late night. I used to literally reply during early morning hours in case someone used to text me. My friends used to be surprised about if I even sleep or not. But I stopped doing this. Now my phone is silent when I sleep or work. I do not like being available for anyone every time. Yes, if I am available, I will do every bit I can for you. But I do not make extra efforts to be available to anyone at any point of time. I have lost the trust. I have lost what I believed to be Friendship which is all about sharing secrets or feelings and expecting things to remain between me and the person.

I want Friendship to remain the best relationship of all always and forever. But the level of our humanitarian ground has stooped so low that it has affected this beautiful word heavily as well. I remember when earlier people used to introduce anyone they knew as their “Friend”. Now, there are apprehensions. At least with me it has been so. Now I introduce anyone as per their status in my life- my college-mate, colleague, neighbour, lives in my society and so on. I never introduce anyone as my friend until and unless my heart doesn’t say that the person has the distinction in my life where I trust him/her to support me in my vulnerable state.

When you are all okay, everyone can call you as their friend. They will even make extra efforts to be with you. But the moment you become vulnerable- mostly in case of mental health issues – these friends start making fun of you. Yes, you do mistake when you are in a state of mind which is not your best- but isn’t that the time when you need your friends the most? What when they leave you or make fun of you or share about your vulnerability to everyone in the circle? How sick you start feeling – isn’t it? I have suffered this even now when I have crossed 30 years of age – just imagine what teenagers or people with weak heart might go through or – are going through.

On this Friendship Day, I would like to say that please respect this relationship called “Friendship” otherwise it shall become very hard to survive. Already people have started disbelieving in siblings, spouses, colleagues, neighbours etc. People still have certain expectations from people they believe to be in this relationship called “Friendship”. Let us keep its sanctity alive. My best wishes to everyone who needs a best or good friend to go through this heavily stressful life.

Happy Friendship Day to everyone.

Thanks.

WRITING BUDDHA 

The Signet Ring by Kapil Dabur (Book Review: 3.5*/5) !!!

1858th BLOG POST

23^rd Book of 2020!

This lockdown has certainly made me a little more religious along with the spiritual belief that I already have in everything that’s happening in nature and around us. This took me towards watching Ramayan and Vishnu Purana that were telecast recently on DD Bharati. Since then, I have started believing in Lord Vishnu like anything and I feel the energy associated with it since then. Hence, when I came to know about this book named “The Signet Ring” which is written by the author, Kapil Dabur, I thought of going through it as generally, the book based on mythology, religion, epic and Gods are thick but this one was a short read of around 170 pages and majorly talked about phenomena of Lord Vishnu.

The book is a thriller and co-incidentally talks about a pandemic that has broken around the world which has been spread by a group not realizing that they are also a part of it and shall suffer later on if it grows. From here, right from the first page, begins the introduction of several characters from this Brotherhood group. Their leader believes himself to be a devotee of Hiranyakashyap and wants to take revenge from Lord Vishnu because as per him, he had fooled Asuras when Amrut was found out during Samudra-Manthan and cheated his ancestors. Later on, we are also introduced to the followers of Lord Vishnu and then the real story begins where a group is in search of things needed to make them powerful which are left by Lord Vishnu’s avatars whereas there is another group who is trying to find out where they would be landing up next based on some clues.

It is not easy to write on the facts based on religion and mythology as generally, these days, authors find it very easy to fictionalize them as per their will, which I believe, has not been done in this book, as every tale of Lord Vishnu that has been described has been almost the same as I have read them while my search for religious knowledge. I liked how all the avatars of the Lord Vishnu are mentioned. Even the names of few characters are kept considering the mythology and its context. The characterization is nicely done and the reaction of each of them as per their personality makes you imagine them as they are.

The way author binds the story running in two different time-zones and connects them is a fine attempt. The locations and several temples etc. that are mentioned adds to the curiosity of the readers as to what secrets are going to unfold there which shall connect us with the tale of God. The few sections and descriptions are really informative and I believe, if someone doesn’t have any idea of Hindu religion, shall get to know meaning of why certain things are the way they are, while reading this book. I am also glad that author has added a philosophical part in the climax which gives the book a nice ending.

Now, talking about the drawbacks, I must say, that, the pandemic part should also have been connected with the tale of Lord Vishnu as that is how the book starts but the thing is closed down somewhere in between. Secondly, I felt that the characters of Dr. Indira and others in the team of Kartik could have also been connected with some mythological characters as it would have added layers to the story. Thirdly, as the book is based on thriller genre, I wished if it had more shocking revelations in between the story which could have given more twists and turns. Lastly, I believe author could have described few more incidents from our religious and mythology books based on Lord Vishnu or his avatars as very few people are aware about Lord Vishnu’s tales specifically.

Overall, this is a fine attempt as a debut book considering that it has been written in just 170 pages itself with a thrilling factor connecting two different stories running in parallel time. I give this book 3.5 stars out of 5.

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WRITING BUDDHA