The difference between "Pain" and "Suffering"

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There are certain words that define you or the matter that is being discussed which tells the state of it. Suppose a certain employee is being discussed and people are using words like “enthusiastic”, “inspiring”, “energetic”, “genius”, “sincere” etc., you understand that who is being discussed is a POSITIVE person. You did not meet him. You did not see him. You did not talk to him. But you know that the person is very positive and you would want to have the person in your team. Similarly, if someone is referred with the words like “dull”, “excuser”, “non-performer”, “liar”, “dumb”, “idiot” etc, you automatically know that the person is truly hopeless and you will not even take out 5 seconds out of your life to meet this person. Leave meeting, you will not even want to see this person.

Similarly, the words that we use in our day to day life has lot of effect on how we are moulding ourselves in terms of our mindset. The words get generated only after you think something. Your mind thinks and define the whole thought process with a word which defines the state of condition. These days there is such a level of competition everywhere that you always find yourself hurrying and trying to adjust in this fast-paced life. You keep falling but you do not get time to even wipe off the dust. You just keep running to achieve next milestone. Whatever you have achieved turns out to have no relevance for you because that becomes a past thing and you know that if you do not achieve something new in career, educational life or personal life, you will be thrown back to the last row which has no prominence of survival then.

This whole scenario makes you feel a sufferer. You keep telling the world how much you are suffering on daily basis. If you are not feeling a little well on some day and you have come to work, you tell the whole world that you are not feeling well. If you did not sleep well last night, you tell the whole world that you did not get whole sleep throughout the day. If you are not in a good mood, everyone around you knows that you are not in a great state of mind. And surprisingly, let me tell you that this is been considered cool by people today. Telling people how big a sufferer you are is something that makes people believe that they will be shown immense sympathy and respect for the same. If you are not feeling well, that is because you have not been conscious about your health. If you did not get good sleep, that means you are not having proper meal. If you are in bad mood, that means you did not learn the art of balancing your state of mind. What to feel proud about this condition irrespective of considering yourself a genuine “Sufferer”?

And then thinking the same continuously makes a person feel down and then we phrase a very wonderful word to define ourselves i.e. “DEPRESSED”. What is the difference between “Pain” and “Suffering”? Something that hurts you in a specific moment is “Pain” and which should be there. Without pain, there would be no fear and human beings will end up ruining themselves further. Because there is no pain in hairs and nails, human beings do not think twice before giving them different shapes and forms. If the whole body would have been such, imagine how different each human body would have looked. Isn’t it? So “Pain” is good and it must be felt to understand the gratitude of moments when you are living without any pain. But when you keep repeating this moment of Pain regularly and convert all your moments into a chant of pain, this becomes “Suffering”.

It is we, ourselves, who is causing “Suffering” rather than the world making us suffer. If we let the moment of pain lie there only and treat each moment with the form in which it comes, there will never be any suffering. And when there will be no “Suffering”, there will never come a state where you will be wanting to call yourself “Depressed”. What can be more better than this? My only request to you is to start enjoying your pain because it is temporary. Make this pain a positive experience by reminding yourself the moments you were enjoying without pain and without noticing it. Notice it now. Stop being a “Sufferer”. At last, do remember that you are the reason behind your “Suffering” and not your boss, organization, family, friends, partner, system, rules etc. Take a deep breathe absorb this thought once and for all in your system.

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA!!! 

Are "RESULTS" really in your CONTROL?

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It has been a long time since we are hearing stories about depressed people and victims who are committing suicide without thinking about anything but getting dissolved in sorrowful circumstances because something they wanted to happen did not happen their way. Desiring something to go as per your wish is always the human nature but how much impact or effect it causes to your life should also matter every moment that you live and breathe on this planet. Being logical is always great. Analyzing the effect and reaching to its cause and listening about some way and asking about its ultimate destination is great. This quest has enabled Science to reach places and today humans are researching on almost every possible topic. There is nothing left which is not under scrutiny. Every thing is being normalized and fragmented to reach to its atomic part and even after getting that atom, human is further getting into the concept of sub-atomic particles. That is the level of being logical and practical.

But why does it become so hard for us to accept the result at the end of all that we do not even wish to live further or try something new anymore? Why is it that we start getting depressed and feel inferior to others every now and then? Why is that we do not look back and see the successes we had achieved in situations which we were sure we will not be able to. Why is that we do not want to think positively and pragmatically in these moments when it needs us to be at our strongest arena? Where does our aura goes which was so dynamic until the previous moment? There are so many questions that arises when we think about certain result that did not come as per our expectations and our approach towards accepting it.

Remember something that there are always certain things that are going to be in your control and another major section of things that will never be in your control. The books like “The Secret” talks about the Law of Attraction only to help us understand how we can try bringing those things under control which are actually nowhere under our remote. But the impact of reading any book stays with the reader for next 48 hours maximum and post that he again starts blaming the whole world. Your focus should always be on the activities that are in your control. You should give your life for making sure that things which are under your control happens perfectly to its core and there is nothing left for tomorrow. And you should then sit back and enjoy whatever the result will be. You anyways do not have any control over the result.

The examiner who is checking your paper is not in your control. The interviewer who is going to give your feedback to the HR is again not in your control. The VISA that you are waiting for will reach you on time or not is again not in your control. So why to let yourself get affected by the results that come across which is not in our favour? I see people getting agitated and frustrated on railway platforms finding that their train is not on time and they will be late. They breathe rapidly and keep moving here and there with a face which says it all. If you will just go and poke such person, he will thrash you to death. That is the level of frustration in that being. And for what? For something which is not in his control.

It is in your control to get ready and reach station on time. If you are not being able to do so, your frustration is understandable. But if you have reached on time and now the train is not coming, you actually d o not have any option. Just leave the expectation away once you have done your part of reaching on time. If you really wish tor each somewhere on time particularly, start thinking calmly about another alternative of bus or cab. That will actually change your result rather than getting frustrated and frowning and abusing the whole railway system standing there. This leads to arguments and fights between individuals once they get into the coach too. A little push of someone charges them so much that they are ready to thrash the person.

Similarly, you have control on few things and that should only be your concern in life. If result is opposite, you can only think of fixing few things the next time you are on for something so that everything that is in your control happens as per your wish. If I am driving a car on road, I can only play my part of driving in discipline under my lane without breaking the rules. How others are driving and how the signal systems are playing isn’t in my control. Why should then I get irritated seeing how others are driving. If I can change something about it as a responsible person I should go ahead and try it. But if I am not going to do anything like that, my part is to only drive my car as perfectly as possible and leave the result of what happens to me in traffic on the nature of this existence. If I will get frustrated with how others are driving, I am going to bang someone’s car in front of me without caring what will happen to my car in doing so out of frustration. Every time, you are frustrated, angry or sad and you charge this energy onto someone else, you are the bigger sufferer than the victim of your act.

So please understand that our job is to try as much as possible and put ever possible effort in whatever we do and leave the rest to the nature. If it comes back that means it is what our life needs at the moment. If it does not come back the way we wanted, accept it calmly and happily and think about what can be done now rather than converting that little plight into a long-term depression and something as sinner as suicide. Remember, your soul never dies, only body does. So there is no relaxation even after suicide. In fact the soul gets more disturbed and your next birth is going to be more painful than this. What you do in this moment determines next 1000 years of this planet and you. So please understand that what Bhagawad Geeta says has some meaning behind it- “Karm Kar aur Fal Ki Ichcha Mat Kar”.

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA!!!

My Experience of "Inner Engineering" meditation course!!!

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It has been one week since I completed my meditation course last week on this particular day. It was since 2015 that I was looking out for something which can introduce me to the magic of meditation and yoga but before you subscribe to any of such delicate things which can change your life in great dimensions, you must take care that the authority teaching you is enough certified and trustworthy. Listening about the fake godmen these days continuously, it becomes very tough for the common man to select one out of them and go ahead with his teachings without raising his/her fingers on it. I had read around 20-25 books on meditation and only after I got little understand of the concept, I took my decision to go with the “Inner Engineering” course provided by the Isha Yoga Foundation based in Coimbatore and run by Sadhguru who is also known as Jaggi Vasudev.

The 7 days course required me to attend the course from 6 to 9 AM in the morning some 12 kilometers away from my home. This also meant that once the session gets completed at 9 AM, I’ll need to rush to office without wasting even a second. It sounded quite challenging which resisted me from joining the course from last 2 years but I finally took the decision and joined the same. When you take decision about something which is related to your happiness and joy, I believe any challenging situation can be turned into a world of immense possibilities and you get the power of converting these possibilities into realities. I managed to wake up at 4 AM every day to get ready and travel up to the centre. Earlier, I used to wake up comfortably at 7.30 AM and still felt sleepy most of the times in office but during this whole phase, I never felt the same dizziness even once. The course does not allow anyone to enter the hall even if you are a minute late and to my surprise, I always reached the place 10-15 minutes before time.

I would not like to disclose what I am being taught there because it is all about how you take certain things when it is being delivered to you in a certain way where you are meant to be alone and concentrate only about the experience you are having. And when your experience is of such secretive and customized manner, it is better to let everyone enjoy the same as per their understanding and consciousness. A week has passed and I find myself waking up either 4 AM or 4.30 AM every day. There is a silence you experience when you wake up before everyone and over that, if you decide to perform activities that can bring you closer to yourself and let you know about the possibilities lying beneath you, there is a feeling which is indescribable and pleasant up to its zenith.

The effect of the course and doing the asanas and mudras taught by them for last 2 weeks (1 week under training and 1 week at home) is quite visible as I have started observing life more than before. Earlier, I believed watching others’ life is awareness but now I understand that our own life is full of activity which needs to be observed, improved and controlled. I have started to remain calm rather than getting every where in hurry and trying to be first. The best can be observed in the difference of how I drove my car to office earlier and how I drive now. There is certain discipline and stability the way I handle this big moving instrument now. Earlier I used to rash. The meaning of power has changed. Getting the control over my mind feels more powerful now. Earlier it was all about displaying the knowledge of my mind to others.

I would ask each one of you to go through a meditation and yoga course as soon as possible in your life. Understand that anything that India has given to the world which will be remembered for years and for which we, Indians, will always remain superior to others is because of the knowledge of Yoga, Meditation and Life Awareness. If living in India and being an Indian, if we are missing the magic of these tools to improvise life, we are not even living completely. The West is adopting us now where as we have already messed ourselves by implementing their lifestyles. It is the right time to get back to our roots. Remember, if you have control over your mind, there can be no emotion or thought that can touch your mind without your permission. Won’t you like to possess such a power? So please do not live a miserable life anymore and go ahead with life that needs you to perform at best of your capabilities. My best wishes are with you in this journey towards spirituality.

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA!!! 

How reading books change your experience of life...

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People often ask me why I don’t take experiences outside and why do I keep on reading books after books without taking a break. I have tried giving this thought a thought multiple times but every time I ask myself, what I need, my inner voice tells me to start reading another book. The experiences that books are providing me in life can never be experienced in the real life certainly because it is only possible to write in memes to drop everything and go for traveling or making new relationships but the way all of us are trapped in this 9-6 job, we somewhere know that this situation is never going to change. When we have realized that this is what we have to do all our lives without taking a break and die one day, why don’t we think of at least living our ideal life through books?

Every time I am reading a story, I forget where I am sitting, where I am reading, who are around me, what people think about me, what I think about others. I become the story itself and just enjoy the experience which can never be defined in words. If anything, that can bring meditation effect in my life, it’s reading. Right from our childhood, we are taught that reading is the best habit in the world but still people have doubts over it because it needs certain commitment and no one wants to commit with anything in this life. You ask for temporary relationships with anything, people will join you. The moment you tell them that this needs to be done on regular basis, they become sceptical and runs way from there to never meet you again.

The other day, a senior in my office was telling me that reading books is of no good as we have to face the situations as per the situations with our own instincts. I totally agree with this thought. How much you read about how to be good friends or being happy or being positive, it is only when the situation comes that you realize the things read aren’t working fully and you will need to think something yourself. But at least the book readies you to know that a situation like this will come in your life. The non-readers are not even aware of the situations that life is going to throw upon them. You at least know that a certain kind of situation will come in my personal life, professional life, spiritual life etc. You then just keep calm and see how the situation plays with you and you only need one blow to hit it off and win whereas the person who didn’t even know about the situation gets so panicked that he starts behaving crazy and worsen it more than before.

People often ask me which book they should pick to start their reading journey. I would say that pick anything you like by going through the synopsis of the book and at least begin the journey. It is something that will make the whole experience of living this dynamic and unpredictable life joyful and adventurous. It is like being an astrologer and knowing what will come ahead but because things aren’t in your control completely, rather than throwing yourself away and detaching with the moment, you will actually enjoy fighting the tiger ready to pounce upon you. So keeping it very simple, on this World Book Day, I ask you to get a book and just start reading. Life will happen to you in its best form just after you start experiencing each and every word read by you.

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA – VEERU!!!

Do we even need to discuss about protecting our Planet?

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Yesterday, the world celebrated The Earth Day which in spite of being considered an opportunity to raise awareness among human beings to protect our planet, I am certainly sure that 99% of the people would have ignore thinking about the planet and how they can be a part in making sure that rare of the rarest harm is done to the same. We have become so miserable and shameless that we do not think about how our future generations will survive or even our own future about how are we going to live just after few years. The negligence is just multiplying in our attitude by certain manifolds daily. Since childhood, the first thing that we are taught in school is how to protect our environment and importance of trees and water in our life. The first activity that we are made part of is Tree plantation. Why are then we getting ignorant about this whole environmental situation which is killing us every day?

We are often asked to spend time with nature. Why nature and why not at home? Have you ever thought? It is because we have some kind of a relationship with the nature which we do not even think about or realize in our day to day life. We are working 9 to 14 hours a day. Why? To make sure that we have food on our plate. Where does this food comes from? The different between life and death is our breath. This moment, we are breathing, hence we are alive. Next moment, you stop breathing, you are dead. What are you breathing? Air. Where does it come from? Nature! Our body has certain shape and nature. This is also because our planet is revolving and rotating in a certain way and molding our shape accordingly.

When we stay near nature, we realize what these trees and plants are exhaling, we are inhaling, what we are exhaling, they are inhaling. This relationship can never be abandoned or ignored. It exists and it is the most truthful reality of our life. If you can’t preserve the oldest relationship you have, how do you expect good things happening to you? We are because of this nature and it is our mandatory responsibility to make sure that even if we are not doing any good for it, at least we shouldn’t cause any harm. If we do only this much, the things will start getting better. I am not going to speak about what needs to be done as everyone of us knows. I am just reminding myself and you about how this negligence is going to kill us in very near future. Well, it is already killing us! If you have ever loved your life, start treating this planet the way we treat our mothers with care and love, only then we are liable to call it lovingly as Mother Earth.

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA!!!

Winning Like Sachin: Think & Win Like Tendulkar by Devendra Prabhudesai (Book Review: 3.5*/5) !!!

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IPL has already started and whole of India and World is in cricketing mode currently. There could have been no other book that could have entertained me more than a book written on Cricket. Fortunately, I got my hands of this wonderful short book written by Devendra Prabhudesai based on none other than God of Cricket- Sachin Tendulkar. The name of the book is “Winning Like Sachin” which also has the tagline of “Think & Succeed Like Tendulkar”. The book does not discuss Sachin’s cricket and records but the personality that Sachin Tendulkar is. Author discusses about certain incidents from Sachin’s on and off field decisions and attitude and gives us the point that we should remember to implement and follow in our lives.

The book is written in a very simple language which makes it easy for it to reach audience of any age group. It is most specific and important for the pupil in schools and colleges to read this book to understand the important points that can change their attitude towards seeing and approaching life. I, even at the age of 28, found this book very interesting and matured. I liked the research author has done on the life of Sachin Tendulkar which makes him discuss incidents which not every author or journalist talks about the legend. As I am already reading another book on Sachin written by the same author, I found that many paragraphs are directly picked up from it and there’s not much change per se. So, this book is like a summary of that particular book which is 400+ pages. 

The book is divided into different chapters which makes it easy for the reader to read one segment at a time and grasp the learning. The book can be easily completed within 2.5-3 hours in a single sitting. Overall, the book is a great thing to gift anyone younger than you getting groomed. As everyone admires Sachin Tendulkar, knowing what he followed or displayed in his conduct makes it easy to follow because it automatically inspires you than words spoken by any other person around you. I give this book 3.5* out of 5. 

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA!!!

Review: Baaghi 2: One-man Show! **½

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Just after I was done watching Heropanti where my friends said that Tiger Shroff has no future, I was the only one who was confident that he is the only one is current league of actors who can do movies in the genre of Salman Khan where the protagonist is extra-powerful and every action and dialogue of his looks and sounds realistic. The only reason I watched Baaghi 2 is Tiger Shroff and I must say, he impressed me in every scene- either as an Army person or a college boy or a lover. He played every scene with the kind of involvement his role needed. He looks like a charmer when he is playing romantic college boy. He looks like a tough army officer when he plays that specific role. And his face expresses pain and revenge when he is fighting for the girl he loved against the most powerful people of the state.

Talking about the story of the movie, Baaghi-2’s plot isn’t much impressive as you can easily make out the real villain quite early even though it is meant to be kept as secret by the makers. This is the only reason why the story falls flat. Also, the first half is very slow and takes too much time in setting up the whole thing on which the 2^nd half relies which is mostly spent in displaying Tiger Shroff’s chiseled body and action scenes. The climax is also too stretched and there are scenes which are too dramatic and unrealistic because director has gone over the board in displaying how his protagonist is immortal and unbeatable. Shortening the climax by 7-10 minutes could have helped a lot.

Talking about the songs, O Saathi and Lo Safar are very soulful and melodious tracks. Please do not make me comment on Ek Do Teen remake otherwise this review will turn into vocabulary of cuss words. Disha Patani is good to look at but her acting is very average. Manoj Bajpai, Randeep Hooda and Dobriyal were good in their respective roles and entertained as much as they could in the limited script that allowed. One thing that disappointed me a lot is about the lack of impactful and whistle-worthy dialogues in the movie considering its genre and theme. It could have made the movie more masaaledaar. But anyways, this movie is definitely one time watch and I give it 2.5* out of 5.

Thanks.

ABHILASH RUHELA!!!