What is your "Idea of Life"?

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    I was talking to one of my mentors about the several dilemmas that I have in my mind regarding myself. He kept listening to many of my multiple problems after which he just asked me,"What is my "Idea of Life"?" I didn't understand his question and asked him to explain it to me. He again repeated the same,"What is my IDEA OF LIFE?". This time giving more emphasis on the last 3 words. Suddenly it clicked me. He wanted to ask me how do I wish to lead my life exactly. I told him the same typical stuff that everyone tells--> I want to earn lots of money. I want to go places. I want to meet new people. I want to write books. I want to become famous. I want to spread love. I want to play games I have missed playing in my childhood. I want to read a lot. I want to meet my old friends regularly and remember my old life when I did few things without thinking about what my image would be. I want to live luxurious life. I want to go to road trips. I want to visit Dubai. I want to save lots of money. BLAHH BLAHH BLAHHH!!!    

             He smiled and said to me,"What are you waiting for then?" I told him that I do not have enough money to do all of this. He asked to earn it then. I told him that I am doing the same. He then reminded me that there were many other things in the points that I mentioned which didn't need enough money. He asked me to start with those points and then move toward others. I told him that I need my guardians' permission before doing most of the things as I live with them. He asked me if I have started earning. I positively nodded. He then told me that why am I then still behaving like a junior college kid who asks for money every time he wants to hang-out with friends. He asked me if I still feel that I am dependent on my parents and can't look after myself. I told him that I can but not in the same lifestyle that my parents are providing me.

             He told me that everyone is nourished and brought up by his/her parents. That does not mean that a person remains that Good Boy which he was during his school time. A time comes when one has to start standing up for his own rights and begin to explore life without fearing about accidents, death and heart-breaks. He told me that life means struggle and if one is not trying to adventure into those areas of life where one would get opportunity to struggle and find his strength and weakness, he can never grow. Neither in personal life nor in professional. One would forget how to take risks or never learn the same. He asked me if I wanted to be a Good Boy at home but a loser in something which is called LIFE which is more than being a good son to two people in this world. It took me time to accept that I'll need to start doing things which are risky and in DON'T List of my home rules rather than just being a good boy at home and an under-confident personality in world. 

                 He told me that well-wishers' happiness is extremely important but if you are ending up being someone else and not living the kind of life you want to, you are actually living your LIFE of someone else's IDEA. He then again asked me,"Now you understand what do we mean by "IDEA OF LIFE"?" Both of us started smiling seeing at each other. He told me to live my life with the ideas that I feel I should live with. He told me that my real personality will then reflect to me by the tasks that I shall be doing. Currently, I am reflection of what my guardians are wanting me to behave like. And then I realized I am still that school boy and not grown up on my own terms except few small inhibitions that I ended doing with enough brawls or lying at home. And that was the last day when I lead a fearful life. Now I have already begun doing things I never thought I would ever do. At least in next 3-5 years. And Yes, those tasks are still a secret to me. The real life would only begin when I shall do it without any fear of guardians or known ones. Let's see if I shall begin living my life according to my ideas in 2016 or not. Are you living your life according to your "IDEA OF LIFE"? THINK!

P.S.:  I would always love to die by living on my ideas than live a long life based on someone else's idea. 

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 ABHILASH RUHELA - VEERU!!!