Samay Atcha ho ya Bura, ek din badalta jaroor hai !!!

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       A friend called me some 3 weeks ago and told me that she has failed in her 1st Semester of engineering's exam and she wants to quit everything. I asked her what "everything" meant. She replied,"Everything means whatever I am interested in. I will stop watching movies, singing songs, texting my friends, passing time by reading novels and almost everything which keeps me happy". I was, for once, shocked to hear her views about herself just because of a result which failed her in 3 subjects. I tried to give her her confidence back but it was very difficult as she made her mindset that she is good for nothing in this world where everyone is running for SUCCESS. I kept talking to her for 3 days continuously and finally, she believed that she has the potential to overcome the Failure and be the Queen of consistency and performance again. Formerly, she scored distinction in her 10th and first class in her 12th. It is just that she didn't knew how to handle Engineering. So, calling herself a failure for lifetime just because she failed for the first time in her academic career at 18th year of her life makes NO sense. 


            I always believe in one thing. I saw Badmash Company and one dialogue which got its place in my brain forever is "Samay atcha ho ya bura, ek din badalta jaroor hai". And yes this is true. Let the time be BEST or WORST, it is going to CHANGE one day for sure. And I never believed in this till my 10th std i.e. when I was 16 years old. I got this feeling when I came in Graduation. I saw that every moment of my life is so distinct from the one which passed. If I am happy today, I find that I was sad just 15 days ago. And after a month when I see my recent 30 days, I find that so many problem arose but went like the breeze of a storm. Nothing is still. Nothing is static. Everything is meant to be changed. Even if you will take relations which never changes E.g. A relationship of  Father-Son, even that changes with time. This relationship never changes but the way of interaction between father and son changes time to time. In school days, a son does not want his father to be at home because of his strictness. In college days, the same son starts meeting his father periodically to ask for money. And once he is in Engineering college, he starts talking about Girls with his father. And later on when he starts working in a corporate, he discusses all the problems and adventures of a job with his father than anyone else. This is how every moment changes the situation you are in.


           I can see my life as one of the best examples. Till 2nd std, I was the Topper of my school. When I came in 5th, I dropped to 15th rank. When I came in 6th, I scored 90% in one of the exams and I thought, I am back. Then, in 7th std, I reached upto 24th rank in the class. In 8th std, I was at 30th rank. In 10th std, I scored 61%. In 11th std, I failed for twice and I thought my life is over. After attempting 11th twice and never passing it, I filled the form for doing my 12th externally without any association with college. I passed it in a go with 55%. Then I filled up the form for BCA course in Bharati Vidyapeeth University. When the entrance exam's result was displayed, I found that I was the Top scorer among all the children who selected Mumbai as their center. Then, in my first semester, I scored 66%. Then in 3rd Semester, I dropped till 52%. And now in 5th semester, I have managed to balance my aggregate and I am at 57.5% now. So, this is now the situations and moment changes. 


            Till my 10th std, I was known for doing all the shits possible in my life. I was the one who stole the colony's most beautiful girl's father's underwear from their balcony and showed it to everyone in the school bus. I was the one who beat School bus driver just because he held my collar in front of my crush. :-) I was the one who blasted a sutli bomb on the door of an uncle's house; door started burning and he had to stop the fire by throwing 10-15 buckets of water for next 45 minutes. I was the one who threw condom's packets on the road where girls used to have their evening walk( and hided behind a tree) just to know what they think about sex. I was that crazy guy whom everyone's mom asked their son to be away from. I always felt that Life is fun. I did everything which very few children attempt. Then, I was sent to hostel in 11th std to a college which believed in only one religion which wasn't mine. I went through extreme tortures and I got to learn that life is not about fun, it is all about struggling and recovering. In my 12th std, I got to learn that I did something which is a crime for the society. I was targeted by everyone but somehow, I overcame from all those accusations from everyone who knew what I did. 


            Then, I entered Graduation and I got a girlfriend. I was very happy for all those days when she was with me. One day she left me and I realized how uncertain life is. It is not even predictable for the next moment from now. In the morning, she held my hand in pleasure and in the evening, she asked for a break-up. On the first day of college, I was too happy that everything was fine in my family except me and as I am on the track now, I will never let any problem arise in my family. On the 2nd day of the college, my father was at home after being sent to India by the European country he was working in. All the family problems regarding the job of my father started revolving around my brain. I thought that this is what every person used to call Life whenever he used to win a honorary award on television. Then, my father got his job back and I scored a very good marks in my first semester. Gradually, everything turned out to be smooth again. Sometimes, in my graduation(I am still giving my last semester), I was blamed for some thing but the very next day, I was appreciated for something which I never ever tried while attempting that. This is how Life changes in every moment. We can't justify the Border's song "Aey jaatey hue lamho zara tehro zara tehro" because any moment is made to pass by rather than to stay for too long with you- even if it's Good or even if it's Bad. :-)


             So, I just want to convey that, even if you are at a very high position, never ever turn arrogant because of it because even this may go one day. You can see how Vijay Mallya' airline- Kingfisher is struggling now-a-days. How Sachin Tendulkar is suffering to score every single run. And even if the moment is bad, don't feel low about it. Salman Khan, who gave back-to-back flop for 3 years is now an actor whom producers sign blindly knowing that he will make their movie get vindicated in 100-crore club. The player- Yuvraj Singh was known for his consistency in bad performance was the only player who was being trusted in World Cup 2011. So, every moment of your life will leave you after some time. These moments come just to see how you deal with it and how many avatars do you show among people. So, in such moments, keep your profile low rather than turning aggressive. Just keep this one sentence in your mind- "Samay atcha ho ya bura, ek din badalta jaroor hai".


             Analyze your life now after reading this.


   Thanks.


 ABHILASH RUHELA - VEERU