Being Middle-class is Being Tortured !!!

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       When you are born in a middle-class family, the only thing which you are taught right from your childhood is to save, adjust and shrink. In the childhood, your parents try to boycott all the roads, galli and kucheys so that you don't demand costly toys. When you grow little more elder, they try to avoid all the shops of cloths as you may demand a costly one which may result in heart-attack to your parents. When the child grows in such environment, he has only one priority in life i.e. to save money and don't be friends to the kids of high-society people as their company may cause bankruptcy to you. You are always given less amount of pocket-money so that you don't spend lavishly and you don't get addicted to something which is hard for your parents to spend. In such conditions, you turn out to be more mature than your parents and you know what adjustments are and what the real money is.

             As you grow up, the only desire you have is to be rich so that you don't face the problems which your parents had to face. This happens generation to generation. Your parents thought the same by seeing the lifestyle of your grandparents and now you adopted the same ideology which your parents adopted and your child will do the same. If your father is manager, you always dream to be bigger than him. If your father is businessman, you always dream to have much turn-over than his company or business did. If your father is a carpenter, you always think of building a showroom of furniture. This ideology comes to show the parents that we are bigger and richer than you. This doesn't develop in any bad and evil propensity but this happens because you want to show the parents that this is one of the way which you could have adopted to make yours and my life better than what it was. You also do it to give your parents what they never experienced or handled. If your father has driven a bike, you try to purchase a Car to give your father the pleasure of sitting in a Car. If your father has spent his whole life in 1 BHK flat, you try to purchase a 2BHK or 3BHK Flat. So, there are two rationale why you want to do better than your parents. 

              This is a general condition of a middle-class family and a middle-class children but the main problem and difficulty arises when a middle-class child thinks something beyond the confinements of the thoughts which are traditionally pre-defined. Every child knows that he has to study well as there is no back-up from parents, then he has to attain a good job and earn well so that he can feed his children without any glitches. But when a child dares to think about being something which is never thought of, there are hundreds of allegations towards him. If a child says that he wants to be an Actor, Director, Model, Fashion Designer, Cricketer, Player, Entrepreneur etc, there are dozens of relatives and family friends who comes to push you back and show you the reality and your status. This effects many children to draw back and live the same kindle life as designed by grandparents and parents. 

              I am facing the same problem. Why? Because I want to be a WRITER. The day I declared this in my house, the confusion and frustration amongst the mind of my parents started. A fear that their son may fall down badly and hurt himself began. A doubt that our middle-class son can be a writer developed and thus the whole process of problems, lectures, scolding, pushing back, brainwashing began. Even when I started Blogging, everyone in my family and family friends raised a doubt on my regimen and asked me to stop writing and blogging. I thought to combat everyone and keep doing what I want to. This decision has been fruitful and today I am whatever I wanted to be through my blogs. Actually, I am more than what I thought and expected and desired. Now, my parents fear and cant even think that there can be a book with the name of their son as a Writer in this world. I will have to prove this. I don't know how many weeks or months or years will it take for me to prove that my dream and my desire was fruitful and effective but I have decided that I will never forget what I claimed to be. I know this is out of the world for my middle-class family but when its thought it has to be done and brought to a conclusion. 

              Everyday there's a lecture about why don't I concentrate on my programming as I am learning computers. Why don't I try to go into details of computer and languages of computer rather than reading about writers and books. One day, I think I will make my parents know and all the middle-class family know that if the oath is build up of Birla Cement jismein jaan hoti hai then its not hard to fight for it and achieve it. There are many middle-class child we know who are world-famous today. I am just fighting for getting a Success which is already half-achieved. At least I am an acclaimed blogger today. Even if my life ends here, my parents can say that not book but his Blog - ARB was present in this world. 

             I am fighting for my big dream and I want every middle-class child to fight for their big dream and let these middle-class parent know that its possible to be high class if the dream is seen with the eyes wide open. 

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ABHILASH RUHELA - VEERU